In short it means:
People are in conflict with each other and they will get rid of it.
Together they can’t solve the conflict. What are the possibilities?
Going to court:
takes a lot of time
will often be a costly affair
can provide a lot of stress
you’re always depending on others (lawyer, judge)
the decision is always imposed from above
most of the time only one can win
so there will always be a loser
which means that the relationship between parties can be destroyed (for ever)
Mediation:
takes less time
will be cheaper, because everyone pays an equal part
provides less stress, because the atmosphere is informal
parties will look for a solution together
parties will together come to an end solution with total agreement of all
so there will be always a win-win situation
which means that all parties can walk through one door again in a positive way
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Don’t think that you can work on to a conflict solution immediately.
Often there will be a lot of old pain, that has to become into the open, one way or another, and has to be worked out and put into place.
If that doesn’t happen, parties will come to a (false) solution too quickly.
In the long term this appears not to be a permanent solution, so the problems will start again.
You see, cleaning underlying frustrations, unspoken criticism and old pains is a very important aspect
which can be worked out during mediation.
Most often you will notice that afterwards the sting is out of the conflict and parties can discus
the matter of that moment in all reason and quietness and
they can look together in a creative way for solutions everyone will be comfortable with.
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